Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Acting a Fool

I am having a really bad parenting day. My kids are acting like crazy fools. I have listened to other people about parenting, read books, and tried most everything. I don't know. Blogs make everyone look like perfect angels so I don't learn much on that front. I need some consistency, but I have a hard time with that too. My problem is that the girls do not listen. They whine and push, yell, etc. People say kids whine when they get everything they want. Well they don't get a lot. So what? You tell them one thing and they do something else. Right now they're building a castle out of couch cushions. That doesn't bother me. It's when they hit and yell. I calmly tell them not to yell, hit, whatever. Doesn't work. I've yelled at them to stop. Doesn't work. So maybe it is consistency. I want them to be a little bit wild, a little bit free, but not animals! I don't want prim and proper. Maybe that's my problem. Any advice? I need alcohol.
Posted by Megan at 9:17 AM
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  1. SophieMay 24, 2011 at 12:29 PM

    I was just about to reply to your comment on Farmama and then thought I'd come over to your blog and comment here. I am SO with you! My toddler is being a nightmare! I am a farmer, and no, all farm children are NOT well behaved... I had a moment last week when I wanted to write to all the bloggers with perfect children and beg them to write a blog about back-talking and hitting and torturing the family pets and how these creative and industrious mamas deal with such problems... And then I decided not to read blogs any more. Which lasted about two days, since I can take two minutes away from my toddler to indulge in blog-reading, which I guess is the whole point!! Anyway, no solutions for you, but you are not alone! I'm right here with you. - Sophie

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  2. MeganMay 24, 2011 at 1:00 PM

    thank you SO much! I thought i was the only one. not really, but man! I know all those bloggers out there don't have perfect kids.

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  3. SophieMay 24, 2011 at 1:28 PM

    This is copied from Soulemama: "Most importantly, please do remember that what you see on a blog is not 'all' of a person's life. For me, my blog is a place of daily peace, a reminder of family joys, and a celebration of creativity. Know that there are as many messes in my house as yours, 'raised voices' from time to time, and frustration and sadness and struggle, too. But for me - this blog space has always been about trying to find and focus on the joys - the everyday beauty and moments of bliss that we have together as a family. It's my hope that it can serve as a reminder and an encouragement to me - and perhaps to you, too - to savor the tiny moments."

    Reading this when I had just decided my child was the only one misbehaving in the entire world did help to remind me that blogs are not self-help websites, but that they are just a collection of moments - generally censored in favor of bliss and cleanliness and Family Togetherness. I do wish that there were more blogs focusing on the reality of parenting, but perhaps moms don't actually want to read about more reality in their few moments to themselves? I don't know. I don't have any interest in reading about someone's relentlessly crappy life, but I would be interested in getting a bit more of the background on how some of these moms manage to get to the blissful moments they chronicle in their blogs.

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  4. MeganMay 24, 2011 at 1:48 PM

    I started following soulemama's blog a long time after she started it. i never saw this! it's great to hear. I agree that I don't want to read about someone's crappy life, but it would be encouraging :)

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  5. | MapleDip |May 25, 2011 at 9:02 AM

    You might look at this from time to time if you want a more 'tell it like it is' point of view:

    http://www.themompetition.com/

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  6. miculkatMay 30, 2011 at 7:16 PM

    Use the things they love the most to get what you want. Threaten with it, and reward with it. "If you hit then I will take away (fill in the blank)." "If you don't hit you can have (fill in the blank)." I don't have my own kids so obviously I don't know how it really is, but I have seen this technique work.

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  7. Cryptos Granamyr GrimmMay 30, 2011 at 7:22 PM

    Miculkat is not too far off point sis.. :)

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  8. MeganMay 31, 2011 at 6:17 AM

    yes, i tried that before and it was working. i'm not sure why i stopped. i will try again...with consistency.

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